If you’ve been a stay-at-home mom for any amount of time, you know that this is a very demanding job. You wear many hats and your to-do list is a mile long. You’re a wife and a mother who has a lot on her plate. It can be stressful, but in the middle of all of this chaos, God has called you to His homemaking mission field.
There’s A Greater Purpose For You
Being the backbone of your family is really hard work. Everyone is depending on you.
You’re day probably consists of:
- keeping children alive
- being a support to your husband
- keeping your home reasonably clean
- attempting to cook healthy food that everyone will eat
- running all of the errands needed
- maintaining the family budget
- and so much more!
When I was a young teenager, deciding the direction I would go after high school, it was really hard for me to make a decision. It was understood that I would attend college, but I had no idea what I wanted to professionally be when I grew up.
When I did go to college, I ended up changing my major three times over the four years. I just didn’t feel the desire that these potential careers would give me. Something didn’t feel right.
That’s because for as long as I could remember, I’ve always known I wanted to be a stay-at-home mom. My mom was a homemaker and did an excellent job. Looking back, I know now that she and I had been called specifically to the homemaking mission field.
The same is true for you. It may not seem like it, having to wear all of the hats that you do, but God has given you a mission field.
What Joy Can Be Found In The Homemaking Mission Field?
It’s definitely not all sunshine and cupcakes, that’s for sure. It’s difficult and demanding. Out of all of the jobs I’ve had, this is by far is the most physically and mentally draining.
Not only am I a stay-at-home mom, but I’m also a working mom as well and definitely know the struggle of doing all the things and balancing a business and homeschooling.
Maybe you’re in the same struggle to find joy in wearing so many hats.
What I’ve come to realize over the years is that there’s no job more important than being a homemaker. Try to remember your “why” when you and your husband decided you should stay at home.
For me, I knew that God was calling me to it. It’s a mission field that He knew only I could do. And it’s a role that He knew only you could do.
Having the time to dedicate to your family changes their lives. The statistics alone are enough to help you understand the difference it makes in your child’s life to stay home with them.
As a Christ-follower, I’ve realized there isn’t a more important role than to invest time and energy into my family.
Homemaking Is A Ministry To Your Family
If you need another reason for finding joy as a homemaker, remember to think of it as a ministry.
In the midst of all the chaos of wearing so many hats, God has chosen your home to be His mission field.
Ephesians 4:11-13 says, “Now these are the gifts Christ gave to the church: the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, and the pastors and teachers. Their responsibility is to equip God’s people to do his work and build up the church, the body of Christ. This will continue until we all come to such unity in our faith and knowledge of God’s Son that we will be mature in the Lord, measuring up to the full and complete standard of Christ.” (NLT).
You have been given gifts from Christ to use toward growing His Kingdom. These verses don’t only mean physical pastors or missionaries in other lands. It says Christ gave these gifts to the church with a capital “C” (the body of Christ).
Applying The Gifts Christ Gave You Into Your Home
These gifts are yours as part of the Body of Christ. It’s up to you to use them. The responsibility, as mothers/wives, to show your children and husband what it means to be mature in the Lord and measuring up to His full standards.
Christ washed His disciples feet during the Passover meal to show them the importance of servanthood. As a homemaker, you have the opportunity and the joy to show your family that you are like Christ through your dish washing, laundry cleaning, meal making, and even nose wiping.
Apostles, prophets, evangelists, pastors, and teachers don’t have to mean physical jobs for money. They are acts of service to those around you.
The homemaking mission field is making your family feel safe and secure. Sure, the chores are tedious and challenging at times, but it’s worth it to give everyone a place of comfort to grow closer to Christ. Homemaking is not just about keeping your house clean.
What Does The Bible Say About Homemaking?
While the Bible doesn’t specifically say homemaking, it does talk about how a home is maintained and built up.
“By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures.” (NIV)
As a homemaker, you have the opportunity to ask God for :
- wisdom to build up your home.
- understanding to bring stability
- knowledge to bring the TRUE treasure into every room – a relationship with Jesus Christ
“A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands.“
You have the option to either build your house up with the Word of God, or tear it down by not bringing God into every circumstance. That includes your role as a homemaker.
When you walk around the house in a lousy mood because you’re upset that you have to clean, fold, cook, etc, – it’s probably not the best way to bring God into it.
I’m sure you knew I was going to add this one! Regardless of how society has made the Proverbs 31 woman unreachable and unrealistic, it’s scripture for a reason.
THIS is who God has intended you to be as a homemaker to your family. Yes, our way of living is different from this century, however, the truth is the same. You can read it in it’s entirety but I wanted to highlight some key verses specifically to you as a homemaker in this century:
- 10-12 – “Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies. Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.”
- 15 – “She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household and plan the day’s work for her servant girls.” (you probably don’t have a servant girl, but a homemaker for the Lord will definitely prepare and plan early in the day.)
- 17 – “She is energetic and strong, a hard worker.“
- 25-28 – “She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future. When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness. She carefully watches everything in her household and suffers nothing from laziness. Her children stand and bless her. Her husband praises her.”
- 30-31 – “Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised. Reward her for all she has done. Let her deeds publicly declare her praise.”
Have Confidence In Your Homemaking Mission Field
Confidence in your calling is key. It’s not as easy as it was because homemaking is not the norm for society anymore. A few generations ago, homemaking was a very normal role for the woman of the house.
Now that the “normal” is gone, we need to realize the confidence in Christ we have for what He’s assigned us to. Your job as homemaker to your family is an irreplaceable role – one that only you can do.
As a homemaker, you have the opportunity to pour life into your husband and your kids. The ability to be readily available to them at all times, giving support and comfort. This affects how they will go out into the world.
Husbands benefit by doing a better job at work knowing that the home is well taken care of while he’s gone. It is definitely a privilege to be his support.
We Can’t Forget The Cleaning Part
Now back to cleaning…this is an important step, but not one that needs to be stressful. It’s all about priorities and what your family actually needs. I use to get so stressed out about having the place completely clean all day.
It’s definitely hard to do when you have little tornados in the shape of children going behind you and messing everything up. Through the wisdom of friends (who are also homemakers) I learned a little trick – ask your husband what are the 3 things that he would most like to see when he gets home from work.
An example to ask him would be a clean kitchen, a clean living room, food on the table, kids rushing to greet him at the door, always having clean clothes, etc.
For my husband, he loves a clean kitchen, everyone greeting him enthusiastically, and clean clothes. However, he states that he doesn’t care if they aren’t folded yet, just as long as their clean.
This makes it easier for me to not feel pressured with the laundry, so long as it’s clean and dry.
Apply What You’ve Learned
Remember that being a homemaker doesn’t have to be an agonizing existence. You have been called into a very important role from your Heavenly Father. He has called you into the homemaking mission field and He won’t abandon you in that.
Through Christ, He has given you gifts to use in your assignment. He has also given you scripture to support your important role. Your job as homemaker gives reassurance and stability to your family. You are there as a constant support and foundation.
This is not for the faint of heart. It requires a strong relationship with God and a constant joy in your heart. The saying, “If mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy” is true. Your perception of homemaking affects your family.
Make it about Christ and everyone wins.