We are so busy as moms, which happens with children of any age. How do you find time with God every day when you’re exhausted by all the “mom stuff” you have to do?
Raising children is a wonderful blessing, but it’s also time consuming and draining. You’re bogged down by the arguing, the tantrums, and whether or not you’re using the right color cup to match their mood that day.
The mental exertion of mothering is as exhausting to me as doing hard physical labor all day. It’s enough to make me want to take a daily nap.
Getting God Out Of The Backseat
In Equipping Godly Women, Brittany says, “The good news is, no matter how busy your life is right now (and no matter what’s making it so busy), there’s no reason God has to take a backseat.“
There are SO MANY things that I put in my schedule that are worthwhile.
- Taking care of the kids and keeping them alive
- Being a support to my husband
- Homeschooling the kids
- Running a business
- Feeding everyone
- Keeping the house clean
- Not only cleaning the laundry, but also putting it away
- And the list goes on…
The point is, I put all of these things at the top of my to-do list. Sometimes, I even make them seem more important than God.
There are mornings when I wake up and right away I’m consumed with what I have to do. In those mornings, I don’t even think about God – either even thanking Him for my day or asking Him to be apart of my day.
Are You A Mary Or A Martha?
It’s so easy to be consumed by your to-do list. So much so that you can be putting it ahead of everything else – including God. Remember Mary and Martha – the sisters of Lazarus that Jesus would visit?
In Luke 10:40-42 we are reminded of their decisions regarding where to place their to-do lists.
Luke says, “But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him (Jesus) and asked, “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!” “Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed—or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.” (NIV).
Which one of the sisters knew where her to-do list belonged?
Martha was busy and distracted by everything that needed to be done. But it was Mary who knew that putting Jesus before all of the preparations was more important.
As a “Martha”, you can exhaust yourself with everything going on around you. When you do that, you won’t have any strength left to give God any of your time. However, when you become a “Mary” and put God first before anything else in your day, you will be giving Him your strongest self.
Bringing Time With God Into Your Daily Routine
If your desire is to give God your best strength and energy, you’re going to have to get up earlier. By doing this, you are putting God first in your day, and most importantly – in your life. Wake up before the kids wake up so that you can fully concentrate on Him and the plans He has for you.
Don’t rob God by trying to squeeze Him in somewhere in the midst of your schedule. He deserves your best. If you miss the opportunity to give Him the first part of your day, you’ll be missing out on the blessings for you and your family.
Put the Word of God before any of your busyness. Everything else will keep and be waiting for you later. All you need is what God provides.
Set Yourself Up For Morning Time
You’re probably thinking to yourself “how could I possibly get up earlier when I’m already so tired”? The key is to take the rest of your day to set yourself up for your next morning appointment with God.
Here are a few helpful ways you can do that:
- Go to bed earlier
- Stay away from triggers that distract you from your to-do list, like unproductive games on your phone, mindless scrolling on social media, or long periods of watching tv. Those activities can make you feel very drained in themselves.
- Make time for yourself everyday
Ask For Help
There will be times, regardless of setting yourself up the day before, that you are still too exhausted to give God your best time and attention. If you are ever in this situation, ask God to help you break through.
He wants to be with you and He wants you to want to be with Him. He will help you break through any barrier that comes between you and Him. Ask Him to strengthen you so that you can give Him your best.
There have been times when I have woken up exhausted, and the only thing that got me out of bed was knowing that I made a commitment to Him. I was able to get up, but even my coffee was not enough to energize me.
In those times, all I could do was just say over and over, “God help me. God give me strength and energy.” Sometimes that’s all you have.
If you ever find yourself in instances like that, just keep asking Him for help. He knows your heart and He knows your longing to be with Him. He will meet you were you are and rejuvenate you. All you need to do is ask.
Regardless of what you have on your list or schedule, making time for God is never a wrong move. When you wake up early and start your day giving God your first attention, you will be able to face the day with strength and determination.
You will have started the day with God on your side. No bickering from the kids or stress from your ever-growing list can take away the One who goes before you.
Be like Mary and put God before your schedule. Being a Martha only keeps you stressed and puts your to-do list out of wack. God needs to come first in your day and your life.
Make your time with God intentional by setting yourself up for the next morning and avoid energy zappers. When you need help waking up, go to God for help and He will be there with you.