Have you ever felt like you were completely in the deep end of parenting? Like you had no idea how best to raise your kids or do what was best for them? You know you can’t do it alone, but you want to raise them to be the best adults they can be. Finding God’s wisdom is the key to your troubles and I’ll show you how best to apply it to your parenting.
How Wisdom Became My Go-To Parenting Advice
I’m the kind of person who wants to plan and prepare for everything. When I was pregnant with my kids, I read my “What To Expect When You’re Expecting” book over and over.
I had apps that kept up with how big the baby was at the time and what the baby and I would be going through that week. I even started reading the next book, “What To Expect The First Year”, just to feel even more prepared.
Then the baby was born and I lost all confidence in what I thought I knew. I put so much faith in those books and apps. But I was unprepared for this new little bundle I was raising.
But did you know the one thing I was missing? I’m sure you’ve figured it out by now. You also might be realizing it in your own life – Finding God’s wisdom for your daily life as a parent.
7 Scripture References For Finding God’s Wisdom In Parenting
“If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.” (ESV).
When you need God to help you with your kids, ask God for wisdom in how to deal with it. He is here for us and waiting for us to ask Him for help.
When you try to parent without God, you’re lacking something only He can give you.
“How much better to get wisdom than gold, and good judgment than silver!” (NLT).
I love this passage and what God compares wisdom to. This is how valuable it is to have wisdom at our disposal!
It’s SO important for us to always remember that receiving wisdom is one of the best gifts from God we could get. Even better that we use it in our parenting skills.
“Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.” (NIV).
Our time with our children is precious. We don’t have much time at all with them. Eighteen short years is small compared to their entire lives.
It’s imperative that we apply wisdom to their teachings in the short time that we have them.
“Whoever is patient has great understanding, but one who is quick-tempered displays folly.” (NIV).
If you’ve been parenting longer than a day, you’ve found out that parenting takes a lot of patience. And to have patience requires God’s wisdom.
If you aren’t finding God’s wisdom, you will be more quick-tempered with your kids in your responses to them. That doesn’t help anybody.
Find patience and speak life.
“So be careful how you live. Don’t live like fools, but like those who are wise. Make the most of every opportunity in these evil days.” (NLT).
As a parent, you have to always be a good example for your kids in the way that they should be living. How will you know how to behave without having wisdom at your disposal?
As the verse says, evil days are coming. In fact, they’re already here. One day, you’ll be aiming your arrow out into this evil world. Wisdom will not only be your ally, but theirs as well.
“Do not say, “Why were the old days better than these?” For it is not wise to ask such questions.” (NIV).
You might be like me if you look at your children and secretly long for them to be an age that was apart of a happier time.
Maybe it was when they were a baby and you could snuggle them more. Or it could have been a time when they didn’t always question everything you try to teach them.
Regardless of the time you long for, scriptures say that it isn’t wise for you to do. Keep focused on your task in the present days. The days you need help with now.
These are the days you currently need wisdom for that will help your children thrive in Christ.
“Be not wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord, and turn away from evil.” (ESV).
Always remember not to take credit for parenting skills that worked on your kids. Give credit where credit’s due and thank God for the wisdom that He gave you.
By now I hope that you’re realizing that you can’t do good by yourself. Being a parent is hard work and we need God by our side.
How You Can Use God’s Wisdom In Your Parenting
Now that you have scripture references to back up the importance of finding God’s wisdom for you, I want to share with you three examples of how to use them.
1. When Your Child Starts A New Season Of Life
Whenever a child moves on to a new area that they are unfamiliar with, it can really be a trying time. They have no idea how they’re suppose to act and you have no idea how to guide them.
Yeah, you’ve been that age before, but it’s different when you aren’t going through it. In this instance, you can use wisdom by knowing how to relate to them because you’ve been where they are now.
It’s hard for me to always remember exactly what it was like as a kid. For some reason, there’s a lot of things I’ve blocked out. More than likely, I probably just made room for the next thing going on.
However, God always surprises me when He brings up something that I went through just like my child is going through now. Something I thought that I forgot is found again and it’s all through God’s wisdom.
2. When You Have To Discipline Them
If I’m going to be honest, my natural instinct with my kids is to shoot off with the first thing I think of when they’ve been disrespectful. I’ve gotten myself into trouble several times by reacting first and thinking later.
When you bring wisdom into discipline, you take the time to remove the child so that you have time to think.
While my kids are in their rooms (after I’ve calmly told them to go and wait for me to talk to them), I say a prayer to God asking for wisdom. I ask for what to say to them and how to discipline them.
Of course we love my kids and want what’s best for them. That includes the proper punishment to fit the crime. And not only that, but using life-giving words in the midst of our disappointment.
We need God’s wisdom to turn our natural words that we would like to use, into God’s words spoken directly to that child.
3. Through Prayer For Them
Praying daily for my kids. I hope you do the same.
I pray for their safety and health. For the difficulties they are going through at the time and for their future spouses.
I also pray for not only me to have wisdom in raising them, but for them to have wisdom to receiving my training.
We can’t get through to them ourselves. We can talk and talk, but if they don’t want to listen, they won’t. Thankfully, we have the God of the universe on our side who can!
You might be struggling with limited wisdom in your parenting approach. If this is you, please don’t hesitate to ask for it. Finding God’s wisdom is the wisest thing you can do. (See what I did there?).
God has given us so many resources through His Word to look to. There were MANY more verses about wisdom. I only shared 7. He is a gracious Father who wants to help you take care of His children.
Gain wisdom and pray for the areas of your life where you’re lacking as a mother. Then pray daily for your children to see His wisdom in their lives as well.
It will only bring fruit to your assignment and a closer relationship between you, your children and God.