Being a mom is really hard. On top of that, staying at home full-time makes it even harder. You’re at home all day, secluded from the grown-up world, and only have children to talk to. It’s a very isolating feeling. Finding Christian mom friends to do life with may just be the blessing you’re looking for. Believe me, I know…
A few years ago, I was that very mom. The one wearing a ratted t-shirt (that might have had old baby food on it) and baggy old maternity pants (even though I wasn’t pregnant anymore).
The endless cycle of wiping boogers, picking up toys and attempting to keep the house clean. You and I both know the latter was impossible!
Like I’m sure a lot of you, I suffered from chronic depression and loneliness. As untrue as this may be, I felt like I was all alone with no one who truly understood.
How wrong I was!
Finding Christian Mom Friends
It’s so important to have Christian friends you can count on who understand exactly what you’re going through. I didn’t understand that until I found them at my church.
It was a new church that I had just started going to a few months earlier. Throughout the years I had been moving around. Leaving friends at every location that I moved away from.
I didn’t know anyone, but new I needed a church family. I found a church with a great pastor. Thankfully, this church also had a small group just for moms – women who stayed at home like I did and knew exactly what I was going through.
It helped so much!
There are many ways that you can find Christian mom friends also.
The Importance Of Fellowship
When you share your struggles and victories with other like-minded friends, there’s a weight that lifts off of you.
Scripture That Supports The Need For Fellowship
Hebrews 10:25 says, “And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of his return is drawing near.” (NLT).
1 Thessalonians 5:11 says, “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.” (NIV).
Proverbs 27:17 says, “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” (NIV).
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 says, “Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.” (NLT).
The encouragement that happens when you all meet up together can truly feel like an answered prayer from God. One of the ways God communicates with us is through fellow believers.
I’ve been that person from Ecclesiastes 4:10. I have fallen alone when I wasn’t in a small group. It led to depression and isolation. That was my trouble.
The Support Provided By Christian Mom Friends
It’s such a blessing to be kept out of trouble by sharing what you’re going through with people who will support you. The outlet that they provide allows you to share your struggles and not keep trials bottled up inside.
Remember, these people will have gone, or are going through, the same situations as you. They will be the perfect people with the ability say exactly what you need, in a voice that God provides.
Believe me when I say that finding these fellow moms will be a life saver, and that is not an exaggeration!
It Won’t Be Easy
I’m going to be honest with you, this won’t be easy at first. When you’re putting yourself out there for the first time, it will definitely feel out of your comfort zone.
I am a very introverted person. It’s very out of my comfort zone to go into a group of people that I don’t know, when I’ve not been invited personally.
When I decided to start attending my mostly moms small group, I saw an announcement in the bulletin that they were starting a new study from the War Room study.
The movie was already dear to me because it brought me back into a right relationship with God. I know that He used that study from the same movie to grab my attention.
Trust In God
Trust that God knows what’s best for you and listen to the Holy Spirit’s promptings.
When my Bible study met for the first time in that study, I showed up, not knowing anyone or where to go. I walked into a room of more than 70 women, all separately grouped in an average of 10-12 ladies each.
This was a very uncomfortable situation, but God continued to be by my side. Someone had paid attention to knowing I was new and brought me into her group. She introduced me to everyone and picked out a seat for me to sit down.
Open Your Heart
Over the next 3 years, I was able to share with them the burdens of my trials in motherhood, my spiritual walk and really find freedom in their support.
I’m telling you, God truly knew what He was doing. Three years after sending me to that Bible study group, I found Him calling me to lead that same group I was so shy to be apart of.
Because of this group and being around like-minded Christian mom friends, it strengthened me and completely changed my relationship with God.
If it happened to me, it can certainly happen for you. If you aren’t taking the time to find support, I want to encourage you to do just that.
God doesn’t want you to be alone. That’s not how He created you to be. We are all created to be a support for each other. There’s nothing like talking to people who understand what you are saying, and have been down that road as well.