Have you figured out yet that being a mom is super hard? You don’t know if you are ever doing it right. If you’re anything like me (and I’m going to guess that you are), I am always second guessing my decisions and weighing pros and cons of every move that my children make.
I know that you are doing the same. It’s stressful, isn’t it? There’s this image that everyone seems is the epitome of a perfect mother.
You know where I’m going with this. The mom who does all of the Pinterest activities, has play dates, makes the healthy snacks and always looks so stylish. I’m going to tell you the hard truth…that woman is NOT REAL!
Do Those Women Even Exist?
This is the image of a woman that we all dream up in our heads and the one that society thinks mothers ought to be. Now I’m going to be real with you for a minute. As soon as I walk in the door, I am in some lounge pants and a cozy t-shirt.
When I’m out of the house, I’ve realized that I’m just more of a t-shirt and jeans girl, and that’s ok. I wear minimal makeup and sometimes go days with my hair in a ponytail.
It’s rare to make my kids anything healthy at the moment. Honestly, it’s because they are SO picky that I’m happy to just get some protein in their diets. With my son, the only protein he will eat is peanut butter and dairy products.
I don’t feel the pressure to have play dates, because frankly, we’re all homebodies and do well being together as our tight-knit family.
And guess what else? It’s normal to feel like your kids are driving you nuts.
The remedy for that is to put them in their rooms for a bit of time as their “quiet time in their rooms”. That way you can find your peace again and not do anything that you would regret.
Prevent The Guilt That Motherhood Brings
There were times that I would say something to them that I regret, in my frustration with them. Something snarky, of course, because that is my frustration language.
And you know what? I immediately regretted it and felt incredibly guilty. And once you say something, you can’t take it back.
Now I know where my line is, and get them in their rooms before I cross it. I sit back and take some time for myself by doing a hobby I know will calm me down.
Even when my kids were younger, and couldn’t really be left unsupervised yet, I would put them in their cribs and turn on the video baby monitor to keep an eye on them. They had safe toys and books to keep them entertained, and you can do that too.
Don’t Let The Hardships Of Motherhood Get In The Way Of Your Joy
I have received so much grace from God with all of the mistakes that I have made. Yes, you have to live with the mistakes of the past, but God is there to forgive and best of all, He forgets as well.
And if He forgets them, they don’t matter anymore. So don’t dwell on them. Just learn from them and move on. When you are raising children for kingdom purposes, you are going to hit a few bumps in the road.
Don’t Worry About Who You Are To The World
You may be a mom who loves doing Pinterest-worthy crafts with your kids but do them with lounge clothes on. Maybe you’re a mom who insists on healthy food, but the idea of a play date terrifies you.
The point is, you can be those things I mentioned before. That’s so great if you are. What I’m saying is that it’s way too hard being all the things for all the people.
Be the woman that God created you to be. He has a direct purpose that is specific to you. Don’t let the world tell you who you ought to be.
If you need a few minutes to make a call or cook dinner in peace, it’s ok to put on a show for the kids so that they will leave you alone for a few minutes.
If the only way you can get a few minutes on the treadmill is to hand your kid your phone so that they can play games and stay busy, it’ll be fine.
It’s ok if your child only eats mashed potatoes for a while and not any other food or just a roll for dinner.
You’re not doing anything wrong. Being a mom is just SUPER HARD.
You Are NOT Alone
I have been through everyone of those.
- I have put my kids in front of the tv to get a few chores done.
- I’ve given my lovely, clingy daughter my phone to play on, just so that I could get my workout in that day.
- I’ve had to just let my son eat rolls for dinner because he won’t eat anything of real nourishment unless it’s carb-filled.
This season that you are in, the one that makes you feel like your idea of motherhood is everything that you’re not, it will pass. God has His hand in every situation that you face with your kids.
There Is Good News, My Friend
According to Isaiah 41:10, God says, “Don’t be afraid, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand.” His words really encourage me when I feel defeated and think that I am doing a horrible job.
Hold tight to His words as well. They will show you that God is with you in the hard times of motherhood. After all, we are raising warriors in this world. Being a mom is super hard, but you won’t be doing it alone.
The feelings you feel, like you aren’t being the right kind of mom, those are arrows from Satan trying to attack you.
Hold up your shield that God has gifted you with, raise your children in Christ as arrows for Him, and launch them back at the devil who is attacking you!
You will defeat him by showing him that no matter what, you hold the TRUTH. Even though being a mom is super hard, God is with you and will help you prove Satan wrong by raising your children as arrows to shoot back at him.